why does a couple continue to live in a loveless marriage? is it because of children? most probably rite. but won't couples having problems but living together impact their children too? unless they are willing to put a play all the time in front of their children which is impossible to happen. ok.. so actually i wanna talk about myself. i grow up in a non-loving family. so basically, as a child, i have witnessed a couple (my father and mother) whose marriage is sort of ----_____-------. they do not really argue but its just that they always have misunderstandings and i know that they are not happy. in fact, i feel that only my father is happy. i view their relationship like one of a ruler and his follower. of cos, here my father is the ruler who frequently make orders whereas my mother is the follower who has no say and has to complete all the orders by the ruler. obviously, he is happy because his life is made easier with my mum. but i know for sure that my mum is not happy. sometimes, she say that she wants us to get married so that she can flee from my father. now, i understand why divorce rates between older couples are increasing. when they have children, they hold on to the marriage even though its leading to nowhere. after all their children are married, they feel that they have fulfilled their responsibilities as parents and hence, they can separate.
i am close to my mum. and that is why she has always been sharing her problems with me. so i know many of the problems she face with my father. as a child who is forced to witness a relationship which sort of failed has impacted me in a great way, particularly in viewing the notion of marriage and relationship. i am 21 and still have never had any boyfriend. besides the fact that i am a shy person and does not really mix with guys, there are obviously other reasons as to why i have never been in a relationship before. indeed, the reason why i do not mix with guys is also because i feel that there are too many guys who are irresponsible and mean. this is most probably due to the fact that the guys who are close to me in terms of blood relations exhibits these characteristics so i tend to think that many guys out there are also the same. but hey of course i am not trying to make a generalization here. i know there exists many good guys out there but it may just be hard to find. and also, i am afraid that if i go on a relationship, it will be a failed one just like my mum's marriage. even though they are still together, i still view it as a partially failed marriage because of unhappiness. why stay on to a relationship if it does not make u happy? we live only once and we cannot make ourselves suffer....i am not praying for them to separate but instead it will be good if they can inculcate some love in them.
Friday 22 February 2013
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